S2 Ep 22: (w)OOzing with Positivity

In this episode Tammy and Jenn are oozing with positivity or as the description says "woo-zing" with it. They are talking about the Jenn's Positivity Boxes and going over a few affirmations and workbook prompts to help you reset your mindset. 

As a thank you for listening, Jenn has agreed to gift our listeners with a full PDF workbook instead of just the prompts that we talk about. If you want the Positivity Box card deck, they are available for purchase. 

Resources from this episode: 
Positivity Box workbook prompts download:  www.spiritandherb.com/positivity-box-green
Positivity Box decks (Jenn's website): www.spiritandherb.com
Mel Robbin's book mentioned: Take Control of Your Life
Podcast episode mentioned: https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=sJdjCy35Hww (The beginning of the episode talks about the Trump assassination attempt, that discussion is followed by a discussion on Human influence and the power of influence on the human brain as a tool of control. Fascinating discussion.)

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Transcript

Jenn: Hey, everybody. I'm Jenn. 

Tammy: And I'm Tammy. 

Jenn: And they call us Woo!

Jenn: Welcome back, everybody. I'm excited because today we get to talk about something that I love to do, and I think we've talked about this before. I'm not sure if we have or not, but I have a deck. I don't know if you guys will be able to see this. I'll stop wiggling it around. I have a deck of positivity cards that, it's like an affirmation deck of cards that you draw card every day. You can do them in order. Or you could choose to be creative and choose whatever card you want for the day. And then they have prompts that help you to work through that affirmation and kind of change your mindset. So they’re mindset changing tools and and for me, there has been so much energy and so much stuff moving in my life and I have 

Tammy: I feel that.

Jenn: all these tools that I just…yes, everybody that I know has! But so I have all these tools that I use with my clients and that I use with people who are around me. And I recognized that I had not been utilizing some of my own tools. And this is a tool that I created for myself. Like most of my tools, I do them for myself and then I'm like, oh, everybody would love this. And so I decided this week that after I got done doing like 40 Days of Gratitude because I did 40 day Gratitude Journal on a very specific topic that I was going to shift focus and I was going to go to 30 days. Well, actually I'm going to do 90 days because I have three different decks that are finished. I actually have six decks. I just don't have the workbooks for the last three. But so for the next 90 days, I'm going to be pulling a card every day and doing the workbook prompts. So I asked Tammy if she thought that this might be a good thing for us to talk about and kind of work through with everybody on the podcast. So today that's what we're going to do and I'm super excited. 

Tammy: Yes, me too. And I think, you know, especially when things are really busy in the summertime and we tend to be like, go, go, go. It's a nice opportunity to just like sit for a minute and actually work through the things that you want to bring into your day or you're grateful for whatever. Rather than everything just being a blur. 

Jenn:Yeah. Yeah. Well, and one of the things that I've noticed and the reason why I created this deck the way that I did is because I noticed that a lot of the affirmation decks that are out there or a lot of the affirmations that people pull offline, it's like a sentence of text that you repeat over and over and over in your head, and you can repeat the affirmation, but sometimes we don't actually dive in and do the work that's involved to get to the place of actually believing that affirmation, because you can repeat it like it can just be a soundtrack in your head and it'll be 

like, I'm supposed to think this. But that doesn't necessarily mean that you're, you're putting it into your system, and your integrating into your into your life. So you're just 

Tammy: It usually does take a bit more thought process. And I know a lot of the really good deeper work I do, even like some of the guided meditations I do that I really enjoy. They do start with some of the affirmations, but then there's time for you to actually, like, think and visualize like how you want that laid out in your life and you can actually process it for a minute, which I think is a great idea. And there is nothing wrong with having a moment of like, I just need to have this thing in the forefront of my mind today. But this could be something cool that you can go back to and say, okay, let me look a little bit closer at this one. So I like the workbook idea, too. 

Jenn:Yes. So I'm not sure how we want to do this today. Do you want to pick a number one through 31 or do you want me to just draw a card and then we can talk about that card? Whichever one. Actually, it'll be two through 31. 

Tammy: I feel like I want you to draw a card at random. 

Jenn: Okay, so we will do this. okay. I also need to find the specific page for this one. But the card that I pulled is, I received love, respect and kindness daily, oops I went past it. And so usually what I do, how how I use these is I will sit with that statement for a second and just feel into what that brings up for me. So for me, I receive love, respect and kindness daily. My brain goes to like all of these beautiful, loving things that have happened over the last few days and how I've received love from other people, or how like somebody opened a door for me the other day when I was going to the store and they actually stood there and waited for me to go through the door. It wasn't like they were just they just happened to be in front of me. And they just held the door a little bit for me. As I came through. It was like they stood there and waited and held the door for me, which I thought was very sweet and very kind, and I was very grateful for that. But on the flip side of that, when I, when I pull these cards, it often brings up the things that are the opposite of that for me as well. So then I typically will make note of what's coming up for me to look at so that I receive love, respect and kindness daily. 

Tammy: So let's take a second and just yeah, repeat that and like give everyone a second to process that because it came out a little fast the first time and I was like, Wait, wait, what was that?

Jenn: Because I'm excited. Yeah, because I'm excited. Okay? I'm very excitable today. So taking a chance to sit with and think about the things that come up the first things that come up for you when we read the statement. So I receive love, respect and kindness daily. And just recognizing the different experiences that you've had over the last over the last day, last couple of days. I usually lately what I've been doing is I pull a card in the morning and I will do the card for the day before because I want to start my day a certain way. Otherwise, I tell people to pull the card in the morning and watch for these things all day and then journal at night. So it just depends on if you want to journal at night or during the day or in the morning.So once you've kind of come up with a few things that pop up right away for you, I'll write those down. But I also make note of anything that comes up that contradicts that. So sometimes I'll have a flood of information like things that didn't feel great to me, things that were like disrespectful or they didn't feel very loving. Just because I know that my system is trying to draw attention so that I can work through or help heal those things. So typically, I will, I will look at both of those things when I first pull the card. Then the workbook, the first activity that's in the workbook is “today I received love, respect and kindness from others in the following ways:” So it's specifically looking at those things that you started writing down and then writing down the details of those things. So for me, using the example of the guy who opened the door for me, it was like he was probably 25 feet in front of me. He didn't have to hold the door open for me, but he did. He he took that extra probably 2 minutes that it took for me to get my stuff together and get to the door. And he just stood there and waited and was very respectful, even though it wasn't necessarily, he didn't need to take that time. So then I write down more details about that, how I was feeling, like I felt grateful. I felt like there was kindness in the world. I felt like there was a huge amount of respect that he was giving me by holding the door open for me and not rushing me. He was respecting my time and my pace. And so I'll write down the first three things that come to mind, or sometimes if those were quick things that came off the top of my head and there more there, I will write down the next three things so that I'm getting as many of those things written down as possible. So, Miss Tammy, did you have anything pop up for you right away? When we started talking about this, when I read it out loud.

Tammy: I'm going to have you read that prompt one more time to allow people to pause if they need to, to do their own prompt. And then I'll talk about that. 

Jenn: Okay. So today I received love, respect or kindness from others in the following ways. Be as specific and descriptive as you possibly can about what you were feeling and what that situation was. 

Tammy: Okay, so a few things came into my head, but the one that popped in first, there is a business networking meeting that I generally go to once a week, and there is a person who's been in that group with me for quite a while, who's just a sincerely lovely human, and this person took another job. So this was going to be their last meeting. But they made extra sure to talk to me, to give me a big hug and to tell me how much they appreciated spending time with me in the time that they have been in the meetings. And me personally, I do, my the way I operate in all of my life needs to be heart centered. Otherwise I have a hard time engaging with it. And so that includes business. So when I make connections with people like that, that feel very sincere, where we talk about continuing to make time to see each other and, you know, check in with each other and to have this person express how much my my heart meant to them and the ways that they recognized that I really cared about them and how they were doing. Because I know this person had some challenging times, like personal times in the course of when they were involved in these meetings, too. And I did express care for them. And it was really cool to not only see how much that meant to them, but that they really enjoyed the time that we spent together. So that felt very loving and very kind on my side of things too. And this person also has done things like they live like about 45 minutes away from where we have these meetings. Some are online, but there's once a month that this person has traveled just to come to the meetings. But also this person has traveled specifically to come to business events I had and stuff like that, too. And they certainly didn't have to. So I felt a lot of love, respect and kindness in my interaction with this person. And the reminder of how much we have been able to be really good for each other in the time that we shared these meetings together. So that is mind for today. 

Jenn: That's so awesome. I love that. I love that. And I love even more that I know the people in the business meetings so I'm like, Yeah, know who it is? 

Tammy: I don't know if they would want me to, like, call them by name, so I'm just not going to have permission. So 

Jenn: no, I appreciate that. Yeah, So, so I hope everybody is sitting and just kind of taking some notes or if you're driving and listening just kind of going over in your head the things that have happened and making mental note of them. The second prompt that is on this one is “I know that by sharing love, respect and kindness into the world, I receive it back multiple times over. Today I shared love, respect and kindness by”. So it's looking at your own actions and seeing where you're creating that energy in your life and witnessing how, how often or how frequently you're putting that energy out there. Because when we do intentionally put that out there, we're going to receive that back. So I'm, I'm like, I try to live my life like this. But then when I go to think about it, I'm like, Where did I do that? When did I do that? And I will give this example. So yesterday morning we woke up and when we woke up, we typically will read, my fiance and I, will read together and then we meditate together. And when the alarm went off, I heard our automatic door on our chicken coop opened and I heard all of our chickens squawking and flapping. And there was way more noise than there typically is. And I, I had a concern for a moment because I love my chickens. I love my chickens a lot. And they sounded angry. And I laid there for a little bit and they calm down. And then I heard them sounding angry again. And I was like, uh oh, what's going on with my chickens? And after I started hearing them squawking again, I was like, I gotta get up and go check on the chickens. So I went outside and one of the chickens was bullying one of the other chickens, which sometimes that happens. Chickens will get a little bit aggressive with each other if they're hangry. We're finding out that we think it's hanger like they just want their darn food. There are some other reasons why they would do that as well. But one chicken, Chicken Dee was attacking my little Muffin and so I opened a chicken run and the product of my love for the chickens was shown very clearly. We, I'm getting weepy about this because I was like, so like, my gosh, MY CHICKENS! And I opened the thing and I was like, Stop picking on her because I don't know why my chickens are like children to me. So I just was like, You need to stop it. And I pushed the one chicken away from the other chicken because Muffin was like curled up in the corner with her head underneath their food dish, like trying to hide from this other chicken. And as soon as I like, she recognized that I was there, she looked at me and she flew up into my arms, which typically I don't, I don't hold my chickens a whole lot anymore. As I've gotten bigger, I still pet them and I still love on them. And I tell them every day how much I love them. But she leapt out of the chicken run into my arms and I tried to put her back down in the chicken run and she wouldn't let go of me. She, she just like, curled up in my arms and was like, Thank you for protecting me. And that is one way that I shared my love yesterday was I just loved up on all my chickens and made sure that they were protected and made sure that they were safe. And seriously, I received so much love back like it was multiple, multiple, multiple times over. Like the fact that my chicken recognized that I was there to love her and protect her in that moment. And then my fiance came outside because I asked them to come help because I couldn't put her back and because the other one would come after her and so we we stood outside loving our chickens together, trying to figure out how to separate them appropriately or how to reintegrate them so they wouldn't just attack each other. And yes, that is my my lovely chicken story. 

Tammy: I love that. I'm going to have you read the prompt one more time and we will give people an opportunity to pause if they need to, and then I'll share mine. 

Jenn: Okay. So I know that by sharing love, respect and kindness and the world, I receive it back multiple times over. Today I shared love, respect and kindness by. 

Tammy: All right, So I, I was thinking of after my first meeting this morning, I went to another meeting. I'm in the process of expanding my business and I'm partnering up with a friend of mine to create this larger healing center, which we're super excited about. And we have someone else who's wanted to come in and kind of help us with a lot of things too. So while we were at the meeting and this this might seem like a simple thing, but I think it's relevant. We were all sharing seven words that we had come up with that were kind of meaningful to how we want to present ourselves to the world in this new business venture and I think sometimes being a very intuitive person who actually does remember a lot of details that people share with me, I can tend to listen, absorb and almost like know the rest of what they're talking about. Like while they're well, they're first talking about it. So then what can happen is I can get excited and I want to respond before they finish what they're saying. So I have been working on making sure that I am also holding space instead of waiting to respond and just allowing them the respect that comes from giving them the space to finish their statement and allowing them to just have the floor, if that makes sense.

Jenn: Yeah, 

Tammy: So I know as we were talking, we were getting really excited about different things and we were all going over our words and kind of explaining why we picked them and kind of seeing where the similarities were between the words we all chose. And there were certainly times that I had this response that popped in my head like, that's really similar to what I was saying, blah, blah, blah. But instead I chose to just be quiet. And I know that seems like such a simple thing, but I think that I am learning that holding space for people is a much more empowering gesture. And so I'm working on allowing myself to show this love, respect and kindness through empowering other people to understand that their words are important and meaningful to me, and that I'm willing to just sit and listen and recognize that that's something that we all appreciate when people are listening to us that way.

Jenn: Yeah, I love that. I love that. So I would love to hear also everybody's experiences and what they've written down for this prompt. Those are the two prompts that I have for that card. Do we want to draw another card? 

Tammy: Sure. 

Jenn: You guys get to hear me humm. Those are my humming noises.

Tammy: That's your card picking and song. 

Jenn: That's my card pick and something. Okay, so the next one that I picked is card number 26. Okay. I seek out opportunities to be a blessing and receive blessing in return. This seems to be a theme for today. What you put into the world is what you receive from the world. So, again, I seek out opportunities to be a blessing and receive blessings in return. This. This kind of reminds me. A long time ago, I had a client of mine who, she was, she was in her nineties, and she was talking to me about people in the senior building that she lived in, feeling helpless and we were talking about helplessness and helpfulness. And she told me, she said, asking for help doesn't make you helpless. It allows other people around you to be helpful. And I've always remembered that. And this kind of reminds me of that. Like, if you're a blessing to other people, you get to be a blessing. You receive blessings in return.

Tammy: I love that. 

Jenn: So there's there's three prompts on this and they're just like open ended question statements. So today I received the blessing. So again, it's looking at what you've received into your life today that felt like a blessing. When I do this, sometimes I think of the biggest thing that happened and the smallest, tiniest thing that happened that felt like a blessing, because I found often that the teeny teeny, tiny small thing that everybody thinks isn't a big deal, like actually letting people talk and listening to them. Those things are often the biggest blessings we receive. So, again, “today I received the blessing of:” I've received so many blessings today. I received the blessing of cacao, my fiance, He came upstairs and he thought that I was in the middle of recording. He knows that we record on Thursdays, and I usually have another meeting before this and he could hear talking because I was listening to something and he peeked his head around the corner. And so I paused what I was doing, and I looked at him. He's like, Are you recording? And I was like, No. And he sat down and he goes, Would you like cacao? And I went, Yes, I would love cacao. And he's like, I feel like a drug dealer right now because you're so excited about cacao. It's like I'm supplying you with your drugs. And I was like, No. The biggest blessing in the cacao is that we get to sit down and share together. So he decided that while I was doing my work and I was working on my stuff, he would go downstairs, make cacao, and then he came upstairs and had cacao with me, hopefully. So that was my biggest blessing. 

And it might have been like a small gesture of making a cup of cocoa, but it was a huge blessing of time and energy. 

Tammy: I don't know why when you started telling that story instead of you instead of him peeking around the corner, I had this image in my head of him just like taking like a ruler or something and like pushing cacao across the floor from the doorway to not disturb you.

Jenn: It’s because you’ve him. You've met him. Usually he just tiptoes in and on the edge of my desk. 

Tammy: So you said you also have you have, like, big and small. Is that encompassing both of those for you. 

Jenn:So that one actually does encompass both of them for me. But sometimes, like the big things are huge, gigantic things like I've had times where people have offered to support me financially and given me rather large gifts of assistance and that would be like a giant big thing that, that everybody would look at and go, my gosh, that's such a big blessing. Whereas sometimes not everybody would look at somebody making them a cup of cocoa as a giant blessing. But so, those are just a couple of examples. 

Tammy:Yay, well, I do think that most days people are being prompted to think about even the smallest ways that this is impactful is important part of us being grateful in full in our daily lives, too. All right. I'm going to have you read it one more time and then we'll give it an opportunity for a pass. 

Jenn: Okay. So “today I received the blessing of” 

Tammy: All right. So I thought a little bit about this. And I've got kind of a, you know, an all encompassing experience, too. Again, with the meeting with those that I'm going to be building the larger healing center with. I just I love talking about all of this. I love talking about the things that we want to do and part a big part of what we want to do involves a lot of this love and community, community for a gathering space for people to come to, for practitioners to enjoy being there. And we talked a lot about creating a space for people to be able to come and actually feel like they can just go, okay and move through their day or receive like the deeper healing that they're looking for and things like that. And a blessing for me out of that is not only the opportunity that I am creating for myself to be able to do this, but also the blessing of receiving these people in my life that I really want to do it with. Because if community is the word, then that is also like creating the space with a community of people who really enjoy and are like minded too. And we've had this beautiful influx of people who hear about what we want to do and they're like, Wow, I want to be a part of it somehow. And that feels like a blessing to me to not only have people hear that and feel the love and the passion behind it, but also to offer themselves in any way they can to support this vision that wasn't theirs to begin with, but they get to adopt it, as you know, as part of what they want in their lives too. And so that conversation, those conversations I have and the the steps we take to move forward to make this part of our physical reality, just like it's one of my favorite parts of the day, it just lights me up to talk about all this and think about all the different ways that we can support people and support ourselves. So that is kind of like a large idea about all the small things we talked about. I guess that makes sense. 

Jenn: Yeah, that makes complete sense. So that actually ties really well into the third prompt that's on here. I'm going to skip over the second prompt that's on here, or maybe I'll just read it quick and then we'll talk more about the third one. 

Tammy: Okay. 

Jenn: But the second one is “today I choose to be a blessing by” So this is specific to the day, but what you just talked about with creating ways to be supportive of other people and creating ways to be a blessing for other people. The third prompt that's on here is “I have come up with a few other ideas to create blessings for other others”. There's an S on there, “they are”. And this is about being very intentional, about creating blessings for people and doing small things or big things, or just anything that you recognize throughout the day. Taking the opportunity to be a blessing, like not getting in your own way, not telling yourself, I can't do that right now. I don't have enough time, like actually taking the time to do those things. And I think what you just said about that supportive community and finding all those ways that you can be supportive for the community that would fall in this category, like you're being very intentional about creating the space for people to come in and feel loved and feel supported and feel like they have this community around them. And so like, this is one of my favorite things because you get to envision opportunities for yourself to be a blessing. And I sometimes I will sit down this. This is how my brain works. Sometimes when I'm feeling like I'm not doing enough, which I do a lot of things because I just do. I don't sit still. Well, but sometimes when I feel like I haven't been doing enough or I'm not giving of my time or doing the things that I would typically do, I'll sit down and I'll envision different things that I could do to bless other people's lives. And some of the things that I put on that list are things like writing thank you cards to people, because who doesn't like to get snail mail because nobody does anymore. 

Tammy: It definitely makes an impact. 

Jenn: Well, yeah, And I think one of the things that's just popped into my head, this was a fun day. So it was my not so nephew's birthday. So one of my best friend's kiddos, not really my nephew. So I call him my not so nephew. It was his birthday and I happened to be at a large convention with people from all over the world. So I got the idea that morning that I wanted it to be a special day and so I went and had, I wonder if it was for my nephew or not so nephew might have been may not. So I mean, it was one of her kids this was a while ago. But I had people from all over the world sing Happy Birthday in different languages, and I recorded it and then sent the recordings because I wanted her kiddo to know, Hey, I'm thinking of you. And I want this day to be special for you. And so it was like something that didn't take a lot of time for me, but it was something that was intentional. And I think that's one of the most important things in being a blessing is like recognizing that your energy is being put into this person and you're giving your energy well, you're not giving your energy. You're, you're adding energy into their lives. You're allowing yourself to be a conduit for that energy to be gifted to them. 

Tammy: I love that.

Jenn: So, yeah. 

Tammy: Do you want to read it one more time? And then I had a thought. I came up with on this too. 

Jenn: Yep. “I have come up with a few other ideas to create blessings for others. They are”. 

Tammy: So one of the things that has been on my mind. So my daughter is going to be moving into her dorm in about three weeks. Over this past year, she took what we're calling kind of a casual year where she took some time to kind of figure stuff out. She worked. She did just a couple of classes with the intention of going to college full time this year. And to be fair, she struggled more than I think even she expected to kind of acclimate to a different pace of life and holding herself accountable for the things she wanted to get done. And so it was good for her to take this time. And I know how challenging it got for her, where she was really struggling to just even have the energy to get things done that she really wanted to get done, even if it was for her own best interests. She was just really struggling with that. And so anyway, over the course of the last probably three or four months, she doesn't always tell us what she's doing, but she's I mean, she's definitely at that age where, like, you can say things to her and whether or not she actually, like, listens or it completely shuts down because she's like, No, I'm going to do it myself, which is fine. But as I've noticed her, she's communicated to me and I've noticed some things that she's doing to try to set herself up for success. And some of the things that she did kind of put to the side for a while when it comes to like her financial health, her physical health, all of that, that she's actually putting forth a big effort now to do those things for herself. And anyone who knows her loves her. She's just an awesome human. And she 1,000% is like a basket case sometimes, though, and can like turn around and forget what you said 5 seconds ago or what she was doing. Wonderful intention. That's just the way she is. So instead of thinking so hard about that, I've been recognizing all of the things that she really is doing for herself that I admire, that she's doing without the prompting. She's just doing it because she knows that she needs to, and she's figuring out ways to accommodate some of the things that might actually work better for her, which is really what I've wanted this whole time. Right? Like you want your children to be able to succeed and just taking care of themselves. It doesn't need to look like exactly how you would. It just, they just need to figure it out. What works for them. And so that's been in the back of my mind for maybe the last week or so. And I'm like, I need to tell her. I need to tell her. So I think my thing for today is I'm going to actually make sure I take the time to tell her that I recognize what she's doing and that I am proud of her. And hopefully she is proud of herself as well for taking charge of things to try to make her the next phase of her life as successful as possible, which I think is really good to see her processing things that way. 

Jenn: Yeah, that's awesome. Yeah, she's she's going to be so excited. Like to hear you express that. Like, I can just see her being like,  EEEEEE, Thanks mom! 

Tammy: Yeah, pretty much. And you know, it does tend to be something where it doesn't matter what your intentions are. And for whatever reason, our families sometimes get like the most ick of us, you know, like 

Jenn: True. 

Tammy: sometimes we just don't express the things to them that we would express to other people, or it's in our heads and we never say it or whatever. So trying to intentionally make sure that I am saying the things rather than like, oh, did you do dot, dot, dot and adding more to her list of things instead being like, I recognize how much work you're putting into all of this and taking the opportunity to support that way, because there are always be more things that we can do. But recognizing that in her also mirrors back to me the things that I have worked through in my own life in ways that I might have liked to have a different, you know, different things said to me. 

Jenn: Yeah. 

Tammy: And how that would, you know, just acknowledging that part of our humanity that sometimes we just really need to hear those things. And it doesn't mean that, you know, we stop pushing and moving forward. We get this like weird idea in our heads that sometimes if we are like, too congratulatory over things that are quote unquote, just things that we should be doing, that that's somehow going to stop. And that's not necessarily the way it works. Usually those things inspire to us to be like, okay, okay, I got this. I'm going to be okay, cause she's certainly going to have things that are going to come back as challenges or some of these things that she set in place that are just not going to work or whatever, that's fine. 

Jenn: Yeah, 

Tammy: but recognizing the effort to try to do good things for yourself, I think is an important thing to help her be able to acknowledge her health.

Jenn: Yeah. 

Tammy: As she moves forward. So I have to make sure that I am setting the tone for that. As she moves on and then help her to understand what a good thing that is to stop sometimes and pat yourself on the back and be like, You know what? I might not have everything down. because most people don't. But here's the things I am doing for myself, and I want to keep doing those things.

Jenn: Yeah. So that brought up like two different things for me. The first thing I have been listening to an audiobook and I'm not sure which audiobook I was listening to that this was in, but I think it was a Mel Robbins audiobook. And in this book, if it was hers, great. If it wasn't sorry, I don't remember whose book it was, but they were talking about how children who grow up in, in schooling and in families where they only compliment and only congratulate kids for doing well. Those kids grow up with really high anxiety and they struggle to succeed because they feel like they never accomplish a goal. And the second that a kid who's been congratulated for being smart and a kid who's been congratulated for always getting A’s the second that they get a B or the second that they get an A-, They think that they failed because they're only good, because they had A's all the time. And so what you just said about celebrating effort was something that they talked about in this book is how when you celebrate effort, it, it propels kids to move forward and continue trying. Even if they do fail on a test or they get a D or they get an A-minus, it tells them that the amount of effort that they put in can be changed, whereas if you're always congratulated because you're always getting A's, the only thing that can change in their heads is they can go backwards because like any amount of effort's not changing that you got an A because they've always gotten A's and they don't know what to do otherwise. So that kind of brought that up for me. So I love that you're talking about congratulating her effort and talking about her effort. The other thing that came up for me and this is not a prompt from the workbook, but I think it should be added as a prompt in the workbook. But how is everybody going to choose to be a blessing to themselves today?  Like I've talked a little bit about, like receiving blessing and giving blessing to others, but part of it is also about blessing yourself. So you were you said something about recognizing her efforts also asks you to recognize your own. And celebrating the efforts that you're giving yourself. Well, how can we bless ourselves? What is, what is something that we can do to provide that blessing for ourselves, too? Like, I've been known to write little sticky notes for myself and stick them places where I'm going to forget. Because like your daughter, I tend to forget things after 5 seconds so I can stick money in my pockets and I forget and I'm like, Where did that come from? Oh my gosh, I have $5. But sometimes I'll write out little notes, like I'll sit down one day and I'll write out little notes for myself and I'll stick them in my wallet and I'll stick them in my drawer and I'll stick them in different places just to remind myself, Hey, you're doing a good job. Hey, like you can make it through anything. Hey, whatever I feel like writing on that day, I can do something like that for myself to be a blessing for myself. I can bless myself in the future. This is another thing that I was. I was listening to something. I've been listening to a lot of podcasts and a lot of books and stuff, and one of the people talked about not doing things for yourself in this moment, but doing things for your future self because you receive more benefit when you do things for your future self. And it was interesting because I don't know if he was talking about it or if I was talking about it with somebody else, talking about like our food choices and how in that moment you really want to eat that cheesecake because it won't be so delicious and you're blessing yourself with this delicious dessert in this moment. But if you've been trying to, like, watch what you're eating and watch your sugars and watch whatever, that might not be the best thing for your future self. So it's actually not a blessing for yourself. And so it was, it was very much about like, what's going to bless your future self the most. So I will give everybody another prompt. What can you do today to bless yourself for the future? 

Tammy: I love that! I have a little bit more brief one. Maybe, I explain a lot. That brought up for me, yesterday I was talking to a lovely employee of mine and she made this comment that really hit home for me because I am going on vacation next week, to see you. And so I had been also talking to her about some of the massive shifting and stuff that was happening after I went through my Reiki master training, which I knew was going to happen. It was like part of this whole process I've been going through feeling like I've lived a million years in this past year, but you know, good too. Anyway, so long story short, we were talking about taking this vacation and she's like, You know what? I think this is going to be really good for you. She's like, You've done a lot of deep work and you had a lot of energy moving recently, so it'll be nice for you to take a break. And I realized, I never think about it that way. I think about needing a break in terms of working at my job or the physical work I do or the work at home or whatever. I never put the deep, internal energetic work in that same category. It's just like, Well, it's just a thing I do. And, you know, whatever. And I was like, I really it like, actually made me just kind of like, take this big breath and I'm like, thank you for saying that. That actually is not the way I thought about it before. But you're right. This is also like this piece of doing all this inner deep work and stuff, too. And so my thing for moving forward today and through the next, you know, however many days is going to be keeping that in my mind that my work that sometimes, you know, deserves a little time off, a little fun time and playtime is also this energetic work. It's also this type deep work. Just because you can't physically see necessarily that, oh yeah, I cleaned this thing and it looks different. It's 

Jenn: yeah

Tammy: this is arguably some of the hardest work I've done in my life with the most reward, but I loved that she said that and I loved that she acknowledged that for me and helped me to see it that way too. So I'm like, okay, I'm going to try to find that away in my brain is something I will continue to congratulate myself for and also understand when there's the days that I might just need a little downtime. That's okay. There's a lot of, I have been doing work, even if it's not the same type of work that I usually give myself credit for. 

Jenn: Yeah, yeah. 

Tammy: So I thought that was really sweet. 

Tammy: I love that. I love that. So when you come down here, when we're overdoing and doing way too much stuff, I'm going to have both of us take some chicken therapy time and go in love on the chickens or the dog or the cats or any number of animals that are roaming around my space.

Tammy: Perfect. I think just like the playfulness and the lack of like, needing to organize and arrange every little bit of this, I think is already something that I'm really looking forward to. Even the drive of just like whatever, you know, just I'm just going to enjoy myself and enjoy some alone time that I'm really looking forward to. So you think

Jenn: well, you're going to get a lot of that.

Tammy: We'll figure out whatever we need to do, but I hope others who are listening today got an opportunity and feel free to split this up too, if you want to just do the one prompt for today and then find some time to do another prompt another day. This hopefully gives a little bit more like a little opportunity to sit with yourself and a little bit more clarity. A little extra love in your day. 

Jenn: Yeah. And I'll I'll see if I can break apart the workbook pages and put them in a document so that we can put those for people. So if you want the workbook pages to write out, I will put that in our show links. I don't know if it will let me actually attach a file, but I will put a link in there so that people can download that if they want to.

Tammy: All right

Jenn: Yeah, I'll figure it out. Me and my techie self. heh

Tammy: Yeah. Thanks for sharing your positivity cards with us today. And yeah, this was fun. Jenn: Yeah. Thank you for listening, everybody. Thank you for playing with me and my card deck. 

Tammy: Yes. And just as a reminder, this is when we will be going on our mid-season break. So we're going to take three weeks. I'll be on the road next time we should be recording. So there's just a few things and, you know, moving my kiddo into dorms and all that other fun stuff. So we're just going to take a little mid-season break and see you or you'll hear from us again in about three weeks 

Jenn: Perfect. See y’all later. 

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